Every week Xochitl (pronounced so-cheel), our resident wediquette expert and owner of Always a Bridesmaid Wedding Consulting, answers an etiquette question submitted* by one of our readers. So, (without further ado):

Q: My engagement ring is platinum, but I LOVE all the gold jewelry that's in style right now and think it would compliment my dress better than silver jewelry would. Can you mix and match gold and silver and still look put together?--Pamela

A: I BELIEVE in my heart that you CAN successfully mix gold and platinum (my band is also platinum, so occasionally I do it). The key to doing it well is not letting your other jewelry compete with the hand where your bauble sits (and where your wedding band will be). When you're making your grand entrances and exits, the overall picture will be what people notice- so think earrings and/or necklace if you want to bring in some big, grand gold. However, as the day wears on and your guests want to check out the new wedding band paired with your lovely engagement ring, that should be on a hand and ARM alone without any gold pieces competing with it. I'm on the fence about whether a bracelet on your right hand would be distracting- I think it depends on the piece. To play it safe have fun with the gold as long as it's not within 6 inches of your platinum!--Xochitl of Always a Bridesmaid

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